I have often wished to have one circle of friends. The result of this would be that the wonderful people we played volleyball with all summer could somehow be involved in our lives during the year because we cross paths at work or at church. And the women I meet for playdates could be the same people I call to play volleyball with or to see at Bible Study, while I would see the girls who come over to hang out with me at night during the day at work or church.
The truth is that while I do get overlap (like one of my favorite playdate mommies who also goes to school with me and works in the same place), it's just not enough. And I don't have enough time to keep up strong relationships with all of the different social circles I live in, so there have been plenty of moments that I think, "Man, I wish I saw these people who I am doing a Bible study with more than every other week." But we all have our own lives.
True community would be enjoying my amazing friend in more than one setting, so that I don't always feel dissatisfied with the strength of my friendships. I often find myself walking away from a conversation longing to know a person more and thinking of ways I could hang out with her. It almost never works out.
Right now, I think I see one or two of my friends a week, so I am not doing so well in this area. I wonder how other people manage it? How many people is the average person close friends with?
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